This year I have had more reunions than any other year. The main one being our family reunion that my cuz Matt & I planned & put on this past summer. But also for relationships, this year I have re-acquainted myself with my friend from high school Lindsay, my 2nd cousin Ted, my friend from Indiana Nicole (that was a brief interruption in contact) and I have the opportunity to do it again. I came across some information about a high school/college friend last week. If I want 2005 to be my “year for reunions” I’d better hurry, I have 3 weeks left. With this bit of information, I sought out more information & more information. I dug up enough information to possibly make a contact with this person. Now remember most of these people, including this person, I have not talked to or seen for over 8 years.
Side note – I would have to say I’m nothing if not persistent even tenacious. I described myself to someone once as being like a dog after a bone. Because I can also get a bit vicious and "focused" when I’m out to get what I want. But I am so working on that. I’m trying to give up that kind of self control in my life. UNTIL I figure out if what I’m going after is major “life changing” and/or “rash” and/or really God’s will for me.
So, back to the issue at hand – I have this information, I could contact this person. But what do I hope to accomplish? Maybe nothing but to touch base with this person & tell them that I have not forgotten about them & what a good friend that they were to me. Maybe it’s one of those closure issues. I never had a chance to say “good-bye” to this person & I have always regretted it. Plus, would this lead to more “reunions”? I had several close friends in high school. Friends that were there for me through a lot of drama in my life, Lindsay & this person being 2 of them. I had to break those ties due to someone else in my life. I have regretted losing those friends every since. Will I seek out those people too & make contact? You never know…
I know that I will make contact with this person, I’m just like that. I don’t like having regrets. Life is too short for that. It’s just working up enough nerve to call & what will I say?
Have you ever contacted someone after not seeing them or talking to them for years?
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Back in September I met up with an old friend of mine from high school. I hadn't seen him in several years but I heard he was going to be in Portland at the same time I was. So I emailed him and made plans to spend the day with him. He's changed more than I expected and there was a lot to catch up on but we had a great time that day.
I wonder if I've changed a lot since high school? In some ways I hope so, like I KNOW I'm much more MATURE!! But hopefully I'm still the fun, happy chick that I was back then.
Call this friend, be open minded, expect nothing, you are just calling to say hi after all these years. It is just a conversation...you can't control the other side of that,but, you can control whether it is initiated at all.
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